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Trash & Compassion

Yesterday Michael and I picked up six bags of trash around the neighborhood. As Michael climbed into a ravine to grab yet another discarded beer bottle, I heard him mutter, “Who would do this? Who would just toss this here?”. You could hear the disgust and dismay beneath his bafflement. 

I used to ask myself that when I took my walks to pick up trash. Instead of feeling joy from cleaning up my neighborhood, I felt dismay and defeat when I saw more trash along the street the very next day. It made my efforts seem pointless. 

But I would grab my pick-up stick and stomp out there to clean up the same areas I cleaned up the day before. I remember struggling to extract a sea of mustard packets out of a thicket of bushes and asking myself the very same question. What is wrong with the person who thought discarding mustard packets in a bush was a good idea? WHO WOULD DO THIS?

The answer instantly popped into my mind. Someone who is very broken inside. That made me pause. How we treat the external world says a lot about our internal world. Someone who is trashing the world is probably doing the same with their body, mind and spirit. We’re usually picking up liquor bottles, candy wrappers, fast food bags, cups of soda and cigarette butts. These aren’t signs of someone who is taking precious care of their body. When you respect (and love something), you treat it well. We have a tendency to trash or destroy things we hate or think very little of. The Outside reflects the Inside. 

When I realized that the person who is recklessly discarding trash in this manner is simply someone who is broken inside, it drew compassion from my heart. Instead of being judgmental towards them, I began sending a loving and compassion thought their way as I picked up their trash. Sometimes I’d ask the energies of the universe to help guide that person to heal whatever led them to discard trash this way. This is my form of compassionate action. Send a loving thought, prayer or dedication and let physics do it’s magic. 

For me, picking up trash isn’t just about cleaning up the neighborhood and taking ownership for the world I live in. It’s a way for me to infuse some positive impact on my neighborhood and people who travel through it. The problem isn’t that people are reckless with their trash. The problem is that we have people who are living out their internal pain in destructive ways and they aren’t getting the help and healing they need.  

I don’t know who those people are, but I know some of them pass by when I am picking up trash; they see what I am doing and they avert their eyes. So I handle this “under the radar”. The best thing I can do is grant them compassion and positive thoughts and move about my day. Nothing good comes from infusing the situation with my frustration or anger. 

My next challenge is to apply this concept when I encounter other kinds of “trash” – rudeness, anger, dishonesty, manipulation. Those things are just another form of people’s trash. Rudeness is purely a reflection of their internal world (it doesn’t have to do with you, so don’t take it personally); remembering this actually makes this a little easier to deal with. You can then observe it with curious eyes and not get emotionally roped in to their drama.

We are all broken in some way inside. Perhaps if we choose compassionate action over judgement, we will begin healing our way toward wholeness a little bit faster. 

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My Quirky Rituals

Here are a few things I do to clear my mind and keep my environment energetically positive.

Smudging – Using a small bundle of dried sage*, I light it from a candle, blow it out until it is smoking, and I walk it through the house. Smudging is a age-old ritual that is used to clear negative energy in a space. I do this anytime I am feeling “off” or feel that my home has picked up some weird energy. If you have a spat with a loved one, it’s especially important to do this. It literally helps “clear the air”.

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Burning Bowl – This is my go-to solution when I need to let something go. I write down whatever is bothering me on a paper. Then I burn it in a fire-proof bowl on my patio. Sometimes it’s one page, or it might be five pages of venting. Either way, when I burn it, I feel myself physically letting go of the issue or the feelings. I always feel “lighter” afterwards.

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Walking – Walking alone in nature is guaranteed to help me clear my head, generate ideas, gain inspiration, identify solutions to problems, calm me down or lessen any troubling issues I have. If I am stressed, I take a walk and focus on that issue while I walk. I keep walking until I feel better about it. It might take 30 minutes or 3 hours (or 3 weeks). I keep walking until I feel that shift. Walking is one of the most emotionally healing things you can do for yourself. Most people don’t get enough introspective time – walking alone and processing your mental/emotional inbox is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself.

* You can find sage at any new age store

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